Last Saturday was an event that we have been talking about for 2 whole years and it finally happened. Adam (my fiancé) and I attended his brother’s wedding at Gaynes Park. It was a lovely sunny day and if you have ever been to this venue you will know how beautiful it is. It was lovely to not be working and to be able to take in the surroundings and truly enjoy the day. I was banned (by Adam) from taking my big camera, but of course I took my compact! Here are a few pictures from the day.
Katrina came to me wanting some beautiful photos to give to her husband-to-be on their wedding day. She wanted something classy and sexy, but without showing too much skin. We had a little look on Pinterest, and spoke about any worries and insecurities Katrina had, and how we could banish them on the day of the shoot. With any boudoir, as soon as any worries are mentioned, I work hard to make sure I have a plan to make you feel at ease. This could mean posing in a certain way, making sure we have a relaxing atmosphere or even keeping in constant contact to ensure I can answer any questions you may have.
Once again time has run away from me and my usual Monday blogging spot has been replaced for Wednesday! This week I wanted to write about something that has been on my mind recently, what on earth do you wear as a guest to a wedding?! I’ve been to two weddings as a guest, I wore a little black dress to one, and a lacey grey number to the other. I was fairly young for both of these and don’t remember having particular issues finding something to wear! But now I feel a certain pressure to look perfect, pick the right dress and then accessorize it well! Is it Pinterest? Is it the detail that people plan their wedding in now? Or is it simple peer pressure? Whatever it is, finding the perfect outfit for a wedding has not been easy for me!
But I don’t think it should be like that, so I have comprised some guidelines to follow, and I’ll be showing you some of the dresses I picked out along the way to finding my outfit.
My situation goes like this;
My fiancé is going to be best man for his brother who is getting married this August! He has his suit and pretty much everything sorted for him so he doesn’t have to worry. Cue me worrying about what I am going to wear, how I am going to look and if we will get the dreaded ‘so when are you getting married’ question! (answer: once we have bought a house and then saved up more money!) I knew my brand colour (and favourite colour) was out of the question because that is their colour scheme, which allowed me to reject a lot of outfits straight away. I knew I wanted a dress and I wanted one which was knee length really – but I couldn’t find any! I was stuck in a panic of worrying what family would think of what I was wearing and if I would look ‘pretty’ enough, I wanted something extra special because I am family, but didn’t want to look like I was trying to outshine anyone! What a nightmare. I finally found some dresses I liked, after I stopped thinking ‘I can’t wear that,’ and started thinking, ‘I’ll try it anyway!’
I recently read this article, and it really got me thinking. I have seen plenty of photographs of weddings where people taking photos on smart phones have ruined pictures at crucial moments. I’m talking brides coming down the aisle for the first time, the first kiss, the list goes on. This is heart-breaking for both the photographer and the bride and groom and is something that really can ruin the day. However, having grown up with technology I find it hard to let go of my smart devices!
As a photographer, I obviously feel very strongly about the idea that if I am photographing a wedding, I want it to be just me. Most of us have it written in our contracts that we be the only professional photographer present for that very reason! I do sometimes find family members over bearing, and I feel rude if I am always pushing in front of them, however I will do this to get the perfect shot (if they will not move if I ask). I know this is a pet hate for photographers, some family members think they are ‘pro photographers’ and like to organise people for their own photographs. This can prove very destructive and obtrusive to the official photographer’s plan of the day. However I do feel for the mother’s of the bride and other family, it’s a special day for them too. They may want photos for themselves of their sons or daughters, and for me, not being able to take photos would be a punishment. I find it really difficult because taking photos is part of mine and many others every day routine – I would probably feel like I lost a limb if I went to an event I couldn’t photograph myself, (although it might be nice to have a night off!)
Your wedding is one of the most important days of your life, and my photographs, and the final product should reflect that. I’ve spent a while researching and creating my own perfect packaging to compliment your big day. If you book with me for a full day wedding package, this is what you will receive.
Paul and Clara were married at John Ray House in Braintree on the 30th March this year. I absolutely loved their wedding, from the colour scheme, to the amazing relaxed atmosphere of the day. From there they went on to Benson Bar, also in Braintree for their reception, after taking some beautiful photos in Bocking public gardens. I loved getting to know them as a couple, talking about fairy lights and beautiful pictures by a pond, it was lovely to be able to cater to what they wanted their pictures to be. They planned their wedding in around 8 months, sorting all the little details and even changing venues! They did so well to plan it all, and this is how they did it!
From the bride herself, ‘Planning a wedding in 8 months I found a lot less stressful then I thought! Finding the bridesmaid dresses was the hardest part to find the style and colours to match. I would say, saying our vows and having our pictures taken in the gardens was my favourite part of the whole day. Everything went well, apart from I wished we paid more attention to table decorations to make sure the venue had right coloured napkins. Also a seating plan. No one seemed to mingle much . And made more timing for hair and make up. No bride likes to rush around!’
Boudoir is a growing trend, especially in the wedding industry and more and more people are doing it! I think that’s great and very exciting as I absolutely love Boudoir and think that not only should more people become aware, they should partake too! It really is an amazing way to look good and feel great about yourself. Doing a boudoir shoot can give you confidence you never knew you had, and with the right photographer you will feel completely at ease while shooting.
I think it’s important when choosing to do something like this that you do it for yourself foremost, and then think of others. A lot of brides have Boudoir shoots to give as gifts and I think this is a lovely idea, it’s a cheeky little reminder of you on the morning of the wedding and pictures that he will treasure. However I have heard of some brides ‘forcing themselves’ to do it for their husbands to be or because they think they should. Honestly, that’s not what Boudoir is about, it’s about having fun, feeling sexy, and it should be empowering. You should only do it if you want to and not because you feel like you have to!
I recently wrote a post about engagement rings, their cost and worth and whether you should or shouldn’t stick to traditions. Now I’m definitely not a traditional girl, and if you read my previous post you will know that my engagement ring isn’t traditional and that I got engaged in Disney World! I also previously mentioned a Disney themed wedding, once again I definitely want that when the time comes. Although getting married at Disney World, Florida would also be amazing, it can be very very expensive!
Now, don’t get me wrong, I’m all for having opinions, in fact the world would be so boring if everyone was the same, but I have had some very bad reactions to the idea of a themed wedding. Some from my friends, family and some from strangers! Now lets be realistic, at this time in my life I’m not even close to planning a wedding, so having a few crazy ideas is absolutely fine, right? But it got me thinking about how even though more and more people are choosing to have non traditional weddings, somehow they are still not deemed acceptable. But why? If you love weddings with a difference (and if you don’t, this might change you mind!) you should check out Rock n Roll Bride and Rock My Wedding for some gorgeous inspiration.
I recently read an article in The Mirror, (http://www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/want-stay-married-fellas-splash-5365678) and was shocked to hear that a study ‘shows’ that the more you spend on an engagement ring, the longer you will stay together. All I can say that this is absolute rubbish and I really can’t believe they are promoting this idea. Traditionally, I believe you are meant to spend around 3 months wages on an engagement ring, and it’s ‘supposed’ to be a single diamond. Now I don’t want to offend anyone, but personally that is the complete opposite to what I would want. I’m not a tradition girl, and I don’t wear expensive jewellery most of the time, any that I have is carefully stashed away for special occasions.
That’s not to say that you can’t go for the traditional look, and I’m sure many people do, I’m just saying that you don’t have to! I’ve been with my Fiancé for nearly six years now, and I’d like to think we know each other pretty well. Still, did I trust him to pick out a ring for me? Yes, and no. Throughout the years he has gifted me thing that I loved, liked and some thing’s I wasn’t sure of. Truth be told, anything I wasn’t sure of grew on me pretty quickly, and that goes to show that really he does know me well, and I should start being more adventurous with things I pick out for myself.
When it came to looking for a ring, I would dreamily search the internet for pretty rings with my friends, them choosing huge diamonds, and me never quite finding something that grabbed my attention. I never looked at Tiffany’s or anywhere so extravagant, I knew those ‘big rocks’ didn’t suit my personality, and I hoped my Fiancé would too. This may all sound a bit presumptuous but we had indeed spoken about marriage and being engaged, an impatient me was soothed by the words ‘when the time is right,’ (and when exactly would that be?!).