I recently read an article in The Mirror, (http://www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/want-stay-married-fellas-splash-5365678) and was shocked to hear that a study ‘shows’ that the more you spend on an engagement ring, the longer you will stay together. All I can say that this is absolute rubbish and I really can’t believe they are promoting this idea. Traditionally, I believe you are meant to spend around 3 months wages on an engagement ring, and it’s ‘supposed’ to be a single diamond. Now I don’t want to offend anyone, but personally that is the complete opposite to what I would want. I’m not a tradition girl, and I don’t wear expensive jewellery most of the time, any that I have is carefully stashed away for special occasions.
That’s not to say that you can’t go for the traditional look, and I’m sure many people do, I’m just saying that you don’t have to! I’ve been with my Fiancé for nearly six years now, and I’d like to think we know each other pretty well. Still, did I trust him to pick out a ring for me? Yes, and no. Throughout the years he has gifted me thing that I loved, liked and some thing’s I wasn’t sure of. Truth be told, anything I wasn’t sure of grew on me pretty quickly, and that goes to show that really he does know me well, and I should start being more adventurous with things I pick out for myself.
When it came to looking for a ring, I would dreamily search the internet for pretty rings with my friends, them choosing huge diamonds, and me never quite finding something that grabbed my attention. I never looked at Tiffany’s or anywhere so extravagant, I knew those ‘big rocks’ didn’t suit my personality, and I hoped my Fiancé would too. This may all sound a bit presumptuous but we had indeed spoken about marriage and being engaged, an impatient me was soothed by the words ‘when the time is right,’ (and when exactly would that be?!).
Having spoken about marriage, it was a lot easier to mention the type of rings I liked – and definitely didn’t! He knew I wasn’t a big show off kind of girl, and that I was uninterested in a single diamond, but I also knew he was traditional and might play it safe anyway (especially with others telling him a single diamond was best). I had found some beautiful rings I liked at a jewellers at a price I thought was fair, and slipped them into our online conversations. I loved the blue topaz stone and really wanted a different look for my ring, the rest I left to him, I didn’t want to ruin the whole surprise!
He chose a beautiful blue topaz white gold ring (one of the ones I had shown him) and I absolutely love it, he said it was special because blue topaz is my birthstone. The setting is unusual and I must admit only now am I wondering what wedding ring will fit with it (is this a good time to mention I want to get a bespoke one?). He proposed in DisneyWorld, Florida, on my 21st birthday and it was the best birthday present ever. Hello Disney themed wedding! (not kidding either!). I will be writing a post on themed weddings in the near future.
The point is, it doesn’t matter what ring you have, or if you have one at all, as long as you are happy. If he buys you a ring and you love it, great! If you don’t, don’t worry it may grow on you. Why don’t you choose one together? Why don’t you get one made specially? Don’t be afraid to discuss these things together just because it’s not traditional.If you want a huge rock, then be sure to let him know as well, he best get saving! And if you don’t want to know, that’s fine too, if you would rather him choose because it makes it more special then great, as long as everyone is happy!
What are your thoughts?