I recently wrote a post about engagement rings, their cost and worth and whether you should or shouldn’t stick to traditions. Now I’m definitely not a traditional girl, and if you read my previous post you will know that my engagement ring isn’t traditional and that I got engaged in Disney World! I also previously mentioned a Disney themed wedding, once again I definitely want that when the time comes. Although getting married at Disney World, Florida would also be amazing, it can be very very expensive!
Now, don’t get me wrong, I’m all for having opinions, in fact the world would be so boring if everyone was the same, but I have had some very bad reactions to the idea of a themed wedding. Some from my friends, family and some from strangers! Now lets be realistic, at this time in my life I’m not even close to planning a wedding, so having a few crazy ideas is absolutely fine, right? But it got me thinking about how even though more and more people are choosing to have non traditional weddings, somehow they are still not deemed acceptable. But why? If you love weddings with a difference (and if you don’t, this might change you mind!) you should check out Rock n Roll Bride and Rock My Wedding for some gorgeous inspiration.
I recently read an article in The Mirror, (http://www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/want-stay-married-fellas-splash-5365678) and was shocked to hear that a study ‘shows’ that the more you spend on an engagement ring, the longer you will stay together. All I can say that this is absolute rubbish and I really can’t believe they are promoting this idea. Traditionally, I believe you are meant to spend around 3 months wages on an engagement ring, and it’s ‘supposed’ to be a single diamond. Now I don’t want to offend anyone, but personally that is the complete opposite to what I would want. I’m not a tradition girl, and I don’t wear expensive jewellery most of the time, any that I have is carefully stashed away for special occasions.
That’s not to say that you can’t go for the traditional look, and I’m sure many people do, I’m just saying that you don’t have to! I’ve been with my Fiancé for nearly six years now, and I’d like to think we know each other pretty well. Still, did I trust him to pick out a ring for me? Yes, and no. Throughout the years he has gifted me thing that I loved, liked and some thing’s I wasn’t sure of. Truth be told, anything I wasn’t sure of grew on me pretty quickly, and that goes to show that really he does know me well, and I should start being more adventurous with things I pick out for myself.
When it came to looking for a ring, I would dreamily search the internet for pretty rings with my friends, them choosing huge diamonds, and me never quite finding something that grabbed my attention. I never looked at Tiffany’s or anywhere so extravagant, I knew those ‘big rocks’ didn’t suit my personality, and I hoped my Fiancé would too. This may all sound a bit presumptuous but we had indeed spoken about marriage and being engaged, an impatient me was soothed by the words ‘when the time is right,’ (and when exactly would that be?!).